Femdom Types

Difficulty level: Beginner

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If you are beginning a journey into gentle femdom or are thinking about a female led relationship, then there is a new world in front of you.

The typical literature and adult video sites can give a very warped and distorted view of how the domme may need to act.

Typically, the male sub will be very submissive and the whole thing revolves around sex. The domme will thus be some leather-clad vixen, whipping or sexually humiliating her sub.

It’s very visually orientated and some of the erotic femdom literature has the same emphasis.

As a beginner mistress, you might be thoroughly confused about how you will adopt your style. Surely, you don’t have to walk around the house all day looking like you are about to star in an adult video.

No, you don’t in fact have to do that at all. A lot of the time your authority may be more mundane, not always, but normal life has repeating patterns, so it’s not all restrained and whipped subs.

It’s important to note that the best style of domming for you is your style, essentially you being you.
Don’t try and force yourself into a box you aren’t happy in.

Your sub is going to give you authority over him in a wide range of areas. Chores, tasks, errands, improvements, and a willingness to submit to agreed limits.

Among the hard limits such as public humiliation, will be a lot of leeway to act spontaneously and get him performing things that are in his own best interest.

So as you start your journey into mistressing and gentle femdom, I offer a few styles of domme that you may want to think about.

Some you will dislike, and some you will think are more suited to your personality style.

They aren’t definitive, and often there are no clear boundaries, as every femdom couple is different, but are offered purely in the spirit of trying to help you understand the path you may want to choose.

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