Before getting started into techniques, its usually a good to have an idea of what the end result should look like. Having a map or an idea of what makes a good Dominant, can not only help to improve your Dominance, but help you better understand yourself as a Dominant, so you can more easily create obedience and devotion within your submissive.
When you first realize that you have fantasies that fall within the realm of fetishism, including bondage, discipline, dominance, and sadomasochism, you’ll probably find yourself afraid to recognize such desires. You may react with disgust in yourself, fear of such thoughts, or even denial of those needs and desires. However, if you really feel as though this is a lifestyle that you should be involved in, you’ll have to learn to get over embarrassment toward those desires.
By definition, the term “sadism” refers to the giving of intense stimulation, both mental and physical, or pain to another individual. As its partner, the term “masochism” is the exact opposite – the receipt of such stimulation from another. Thus, the term sadomasochism refers to the exchange between two consenting adults of intense stimulation that could range from desperate words to actual physical pain, usually during a sexual session. One of the key terms here is that it is consensual, and with the consent of a man or woman to receive stimulation and pain from another individual who enjoys dispensing these treatments comes the responsibility of remaining safe in play. Without prior discussion as to the limitations of both parties, as well as intense communication between the two (who should be alert and aware so that such needs are not missed), sadomasochistic practices can become dangerous.
Service comes in many forms in your BDSM practices. Some services might be action oriented while others are based on commands or bondage techniques. However, many Dominants prefer to have certain positions for their slaves that will show their obedience as well as their diligence in providing exactly what their Master or Mistress requires of them. These are several basic positions that you may want to incorporate:
When people think of fetishism, they often picture only what they’ve seen in movies, pornography, and tabloid talk shows. However, the worlds of bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism are all very diverse and typically are nothing like the laughable show on television. One of the most important rules adhered to by those trained in these fetish arts is the need to negotiate and set limitations in any relationship involving any of these penchants for sexual play.
