The Submissive Types – Mistress Training

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Slaves

Service Slave | Sex Slave | Pain Slave | Financial Slave

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– Service Slave

This is the valet, housekeeper or butler type of slavery. The s-type that finds sexual gratification in pure serving. This sub will cook and clean, do your laundry, wash your car or any other type of service you require. Although this sub receives sexual gratification from service this sub may or may not want physical sexual interaction with their Master. Frequently, the type of slave may be a straight male who seeks to serve another man while naked (CMNM) in order to achieve a sense of humiliation or belittling by their Master. Infrequently, a service slave may want to serve while naked because they enjoy being watched.

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– Sex Slave

The only reason this s-type exists is for sex. Sex by any means is on this s-type’s to do list. Often with little regard for the hazards involved. They are looking for either their own orgasm or to make a Master orgasm above all else. When a slave is purely a sex slave, they are challenging to have in your life: when sexual congress is one’s only motivation, it will often lead to drama.

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– Pain Slave

Pain slaves are there for their Master to be tested as to how much pain, humiliation, and whatever else they can take from their Master. This type of slave is really just a masochist submissive with a title.

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– Financial Slave

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Submissives

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– Alpha

This is a more complex one to describe as I have found this one happens to have two ways to look at it.

This is the sub that is book or learned smart. This sub finds he is above anyone else because of what he knows. This sub goes out of their way to show off and is the attention getter.
This is either the first sub in a poly relationship or one that is a switch. This is the sub that helps with the other subs because they can fill a Dom/me role with skill. But always under the direction of their own Dom/me.

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Alpha | Conceptual | Mental | Romantic | Bedroom | Servant (Service)

– Conceptual

This sub learns from the internet, books, romance novels and erotica on how to be a sub. There is nothing wrong with this subtype other than their only drive is is to lead a BDSM life primarily online. Yes, that’s right. This is the online sub that has a vanilla life and no desire to live a BDSM life off the internet.

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Alpha | Conceptual | Mental | Romantic | Bedroom | Servant (Service)

– Mental

No, this isn’t a straight jacket and padded room type of sub. The mental sub means that BDSM is a thing that works with them in their head space or thoughts in order to play it out in real life. There are a few factors that indicate a sub is a mental sub, one is they like different levels of submission. What they need one day they don’t the next. Dom/me’s will be in power struggle with this “s-type” because this sub doesn’t always communicate. The other characteristic of this sub is that love is often optional.

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– Romantic

This is the sub that finds solace in the emotions invested in submission. Love is a mandatory piece of this sub’s make up. This subtype wants to surrender everything without becoming the slave. They are in love with the ideal of submission and pour their heart into their submission without thoughts of an end.

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– Bedroom

This sub is interesting. Their submission is real, make no mistake about that one but their submission is triggered by their environment. When they walk in the door and they lock it or at night as the bedroom door closes. The submissive in this sub comes out to play. The characteristics of this sub are vital, in that this sub is driven by sex and sexual need. Often you will find that this sub, due to the sexual need is a switch and can take either role.

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– Servant (Service)

You guessed this one, this is the maid or butler. The sub that finds sexual gratification in pure serving. This sub will cook and clean, do your laundry, wash your car or any other type of service you require. Although this sub receives sexual gratification from service this sub requires no sex and doesn’t want it, yes this includes sexual touching.

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Pet Play

WHY PLAY AS ANIMALS?

1. OWNERSHIP

It can be an avenue that lets them give complete control to their Owner. Imagine a real-life pet – they are 100% dependent for food, water, shelter, protection etc. as well as being molded to the Owner’s desired behavior. BDSM is full of power exchange, so it’s no surprise that pet play is part of it.

2. CONSENSUAL HUMILIATION

Having the human element stripped from the sub (and all the various activities that come with pet play) can be humiliating and cathartic.

3. DESTRESSING

Letting go of control can be relaxing for some people – not having to worry about the everyday problems and responsibilities adults normally have to. The pets only have to focus on their pet persona and doing as their Owner commands.

4. FETISH

For others, it’s simply something they find sexy or arousing.

IMPORTANT SIDE NOTE: Just like ravishment players don’t actually want to be raped and age players don’t want to have sex with children, pet players don’t want to have sex with animals.

WHAT DO THEY DO?

It entirely depends on the Dominant and the submissive, but the general idea is…

#1 CHOOSING YOUR ANIMAL

This can be either the sub or Dom’s choice. It can be assigned or chosen on instinct (ask anyone if they would rather be a dog or a cat, and everyone will have an answer). You’re also not restricted to ONE animal if you don’t want to be.

Common animals include – puppy/dog, kitten/cat, pony, and pig. These make up a large majority of animals, but there are some that choose other creatures (including mythical ones).

2. COVER YOUR SSSC RULES

The Dom and sub (or just the Dom) decide on rules (under the Safe/Sane/Sober/Consensual commandments), behaviors, punishments, safe words, and length of play – after all the boundaries are in place, play away!

THINGS YOU CAN DO

Various tricks on command
Learning to use a litter box or go outside
Petting or scratching in
Movement restrictions
Eating out of pet bowls
Eating human food that’s made to look like pet food
Playing with toys
Sleeping in cages or pet beds
Keeping off the furniture
Being led by collar/leash
Wear butt plugs with animal tails
Shop for and wear animal accessories or costume pieces

SAFETY CONCERNS

With any BDSM play, there are always dangers you need to be aware of…

1. BONDAGE – Any movement restrictions need to be monitored for proper circulation and no tissue damage. There also need to be a fast way to get out of said bondage if any problems pop up.

2. CAGING – Similar to bondage, it might be dangerous to leave a “pet” in a small cage for too long since it doesn’t allow them to move (and maintain proper blood flow). If you want them to sleep in an enclosure, make sure there’s plenty of room.

3. FOOD – Human food is not pet food and pet food is not human food. Never make people eat puppy kibble. There are plenty of ways to fake canned dog chow or kitten treats with normal food (and proper nutritional values) – even if you’re vegan or vegetarian.

4. OUTSIDE PLAY – Maybe you want your puppy to take a walk. Perhaps you want your pony to pull a cart. No matter what, always remember that human tissue isn’t as strong as hooves or paws (even real dogs need sweaters in cold weather). Make sure you’re aware of the temperature and that they are wearing the proper protection on their knees, hands etc.

5. PUBLIC PLAY – “Public play” isn’t actually PUBLIC play. You never go to a place where non-consensual and young eyes could see what you’re doing. Public simply means you’re going to a place where other kinksters are playing (like BDSM parties, kink festivals, private parties etc.)

6. NON-VERBAL PET – If you want your pet to be completely non-verbal with human-speak, you STILL need a clear SAFE WORD if there is emotional or physical problems. OR, you can allow the one verbal exception to be the safe word.

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Types of Littles for Caregiver/little Dynamics

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– Adult Baby

Adult babies are generally relatively young in the age-range spectrum. They are more inclined to be associated with bottles, diaper play, and babytalk. Some may be completely nonverbal or infantile in regressive behaviors.

Adult baby is commonly the gender-neutral option or term also for babygirl/babyboy personalities.
Most adult babies identify as an age below two years old. (mentally newborn or 0 months to 2 years old)

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– Baby Girl/Boy

Babygirls and babyboys are also relatively young in mindset. They also are often associated with the use of adult diapers, bottles, pacifiers, rattles, and toddler toys, and broken sentences or baby talk.

Babygirl and babyboy are commonly gendered terms that also equate to the adult baby personality.
These participants may fall anywhere from infant age to three or four years old. (mentally 0 months to 4 years old)

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– Little Girl/Boy

Littles are the most common age-range for people to identify as in our community. Littles are often interested in stuffed animals, cartoons, coloring, building make-believe forts from common household items, and basic crafting. They may be emotionally sensitive, time-demanding, and in need of reassurance. Littles may or may not use adult diapers and pacifiers but they are less commonly preferred than younger age-range mindsets.

“Little” is the gender neutral term or option for these types of individuals.
The little age-range is wide, and from about four years old until about ten years old. (mentally 4 years to 10 years old)

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– Liddle

Regressors who identify as liddles fluctuate in interests and personality so much that they often flex between little and middle age comparisons. They may prefer a larger range of interests that still fall under the teenage expectations but older than baby or toddler commonalities. Often they feel too old to be wearing diapers. Building forts and reading books intended for preteens are common interests and often occur together.
Liddles primarily identify as an age-range between five and twelve. (mentally fluctuating fluidly between 5 years to 12 years old on average)

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– Middle

People who identify as middles find that they have interests more developed than basic cartoons. They may be more interested in classic video games, cartoons with more developed plots and characters, dolls and action figures, going on pretend adventures, take on more extensive forms of crafting or hobbying. They’re likely still too young to be within “dating age” but may enjoy the notion of having crushes, including for celebrities and music groups. Middles often have more independence than a person identifying as a little, but do prefer the support of a Caregiver as they seek personal acceptance.
Middles primarily identify as an age-range between ten and thirteen. (mentally 10 years to 13 years old)

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– Adult Teen

A less common ageplay range is the adult teen. Participants enjoy activities like sports, television shows targeted toward teen drama, journaling, photography, and more developed crafting and artistry such as oil painting. Some may be interested in fashion trends, gossiping, and possibly even the idea of rebelling. They may be of “dating age”, want to attend sleepovers, or even host parties. Adult teens have the most independence from their chosen Caregiver (if they even want a Caregiver/parental partner, as some may prefer to “date”) and may also become dominant over, or even responsible for the care of, their Caregiver.
An adult teen identifies as having a mindset or personality of between thirteen and eighteen. (mentally 13 years to 18 years old)

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– Ageplayer

An ageplayer is a person who fluctuates through two or more identifications listed above or even older. An age player is simply a person who is roleplaying (acting as; pretending to be) as an age they are not biologically.
Ageplay is also commonly used as a generalized term to simply identify that the person prefers roleplaying as an age they are not biologically. The person may still identify a regression age or as being a little (or any of the other identification terms listed here).

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– Brat/SAM

A brat is simply a personality type that is in combination of someone who generally falls under the little boy/girl, middle, or adult teen age-ranges in mentality. Most brats identify as a little brat, middle brat, or teen brat. Brats are often persons who challenge their Caregiver in dominance through ways of intentional disobedience (breaking scheduled adherence, breaking rules, using verbally disrespectful words or tones with their Caregiver, or making demands that often are accompanied by stomping feet, crying, or childishly comparing their relationship to another — “Suzie’s Daddy let’s her eat sweets before dinner! She told me!”
Brats primarily identify as another little-type accompanied by brat and have an age-range of anywhere between four and eighteen. (mentally 4 to 18 years old)

This can be for attention, to test limits, or provoke punishment. This may be because they enjoy the humiliation aspect of being punished, or for purely masochistic reasons.

I don’t think all SAMs are masochists, but they’re kind of the brat of the bunch. They’re definitely trying to provoke their Dominant. As an accidental SAM, I can tell you it’s not always on purpose. I have SAM tendencies but don’t embrace the label because it’s not intentional when I do it. Some SAMs are driven by the punishment, others by the pain. When I’m in SAM mode, John Brownstone knows the worst (and also best) punishment for me is something that doesn’t cause physical pain. (And that’s why he’s the sadist.) I would say that the label of “brat” might be a SAM or it may be the person who wants their submission forced, or a combination of the two.

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Sissies

Sissy slaves come in all shapes and forms, from cuckold sissies to sissy maids, and beyond. A sissy can be of any sexual orientation and identify as any gender. This is also Madam Sabrina’s expertise.

What does Sissy Training mean?

Sissy training is a process where submissive men learn to take on traditionally female roles. The submissive, known as a sissy, learns to adopt ultra-feminine behaviors and perform feminine activities under the guidance of his Dominant partner. Sissy training is usually performed as part of a BDSM role playing scene or BDSM lifestyle.

What is Sissy Play?

Sissy play is a form of power play used to enhance BDSM scenes.
It’s a way of creating a strong power dynamic between two or more people and relies on gender stereotypes to work.
Generally speaking, sissification or sissy training is the process whereby a submissive man emasculates himself, and takes on personality traits or roles usually associated with women.
He effectively becomes a caricature of what a woman is, based on societal stereotypes.
This can include anything from wearing a dress and tights, to softened body language, wearing lots of pink, or only responding to a feminine name. It generally delves further than simply crossdressing.
What takes place during sissy play depends entirely on the submissive partner’s chosen sissy role.
For example: A ‘Maid Sissy’ cooks, cleans and wants to take on domestic chores, whereas a ‘Toddler Sissy’ plays the role of a young female who can’t do anything for herself.
Some sissy play is a form of humiliation, while other sissys concentrate more on the role reversal, age play and gender bending aspects of this roleplay.

Why Do People Do it?

Power exchange is HOT.
Not only does does power play require complete and utter trust from both/all parties, but the act of stepping outside of your usual role/headspace offers healthy escapism and an opportunity to learn something about yourself, as well as your partner(s).
The long term benefits of power play within a relationship (when explored safely) include improved intimacy, greater trust, more open communication and, of course, a banging sex life!

Aftercare

Aftercare is always important after any serious sex play, such as BDSM.
All power play can lead to heightened emotions, and it’s quite normal for a sub to feel overwhelmed with feelings after an intense play session, especially if humiliation or sadomasochism is involved.
If your Sissy Play session involves someone who identifies as a woman in everyday life, it can be especially important for them to have a good aftercare chat, no matter which role they played in the scene.
As mentioned earlier, Sissy Play relies on societal stereotypes in order to work. Unfortunately, society still (mostly) paints women as “weak”, “emotional” and “less able” than men, which most women aren’t exactly cool with.
Bringing real life societal inequalities into play can leave some players feeling inadequate, downtrodden or sad, as it can bring real life difficulties to the surface.
It’s for this reason that it’s really important for couples (particularly straight couples) who use Sissy Play in their sex life to talk afterwards, and reiterate that defining gender is clearly far more complex than these outdated ideas.

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– Secret

Presenting the secret sissy, a man with a lot to offer out there in the ‘real’ world. He is a true sissy in hiding, in need of somewhere safe to explore his other self. Normally a high achiever, a leader, the go to man, a sporty go-getter who has no problems attracting the female sex. A secret sissy as no one would believe his secret yearning that need to be worked through now and then. The male persona, to be stong, a leader, does not leave much room to express emotions or show a more vulnerable side. Stress can build up. Balance is needed. Macho roles can take their toll on the male psyche. All men to some degree need to find this equilibrium. A space needs to be created for the secret sissy to relax and unwind, to hand over control to a dominant woman in cocooned privacy. The art of submitting and letting go (easier said than done) is the main focus here. Lying on your back, smothered by femininity, then down on bent knees for some strap-on activity.

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– Humiliation Sissy

Presenting the sordid sissy. Humiliation is the name of the game. The more embarrassing and horrifying her ordeal the more exciting and stimulating she finds it. Her whole aim in front of you will be to be used and abused. She loves to be made fun off, mocked and sneered at. You can slag her off to your hearts content, denigrate her out and about. In this instance, uncomfortable predicaments are found pleasantly arousing for them. Shame turns them on. Being instructed to turn up in matching feminine undergarments sets the scene. Winking at sordid sissy when down at the pub, whispering in a concerned manner if she is comfortable in all her layers of lace undergarments. Dressing up, or in this case down, in flimsy attire, interrogating her to reveal all her sordid fantasies, this is your mission in life, or one of them! Imagine pink here, lots of it. Here, focus on endless girly frilly flouncy garments, leaving little to the imagination.

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– Sweet Sissy Cross Dresser

Presenting the sweet sissy cross-dresser. From a young age, before she was even aware there was a name for it, she felt drawn toward her mother and/or sisters, cousin, female school friend’s attire. She prefers the company of girls and all things girly. Sports are not her passion, nor bonding with the boys. There may even be times when she feels she is trapped in a man’s body. The sweet cross-dresser wants to look feminine, and not go over the top. Maybe even be lucky enough to ‘pass’ as a female. There is not a slutty whore trying to break free, that’s just not her thing. And certainly not out in public. Female clothing just feels like ‘home’, its relaxing and soothing. She feels submissive and does not necessarily focus on sexual gratification. She most likely is shy and a bit unassuming, perfect for a shopping trip when her confidence has been boosted. Pastel coloured matching lingerie, or even one of your sexy kimonos, sipping green tea for a good complexion, consuming dainty sandwiches… These gentler pursuits attract her. Mind you, even this sweet cross-dresser can be eased gently out of her safe zone for a bit of ‘action’, all part of her training in the art of being a woman.

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– Show off Sissy

Presenting the show-off attention seeking whore and exhibitionist to boot. She craves being on everyone’s radar and absolutely fabulous in every which way. Clothes, make-up, false eyelashes, wigs, stuffed bra, wobbling around on very high-heals smelling like a goddess. All eyes must be one her! A lot of time and energy is put into getting the ‘right’ look. She dresses to impress, or let’s just say, knock the competition right out of the way. Interestingly she may first appear to be quite introverted and nondescript, but comes out of her shell as her transformation progresses. She loves the camera and wants you to snap away, quite a slut for endless porn-star pictures, posing and flouncing around the front room parlour, lost in her new alter-ego, vivacious, sparkly, effervescent. So unlike that dreary male she left behind. It goes without saying that no matter what a show-off sissy is, in the parlour, out of it, her destiny is to be paying attention to your phallic symbol at the end of the session’s journey.

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– Maid

Presenting the sissy maid, drawn toward an assertive dynamic formidable women, like you. She wants to be indispensible, a practical necessity as she gets a positive glow catering to her Mistress’ every need. She should take great satisfaction in serving her Dominant and be able to multi task around the front room parlour. practising her curtsy, putting the kettle on, hovering, dusting, washing out your delicates, shining mirrors and table tops, cleaning the shower unit and bathroom sink, organizing clothing away in scented cupboards etc. She can pass around the tray of finger eats when guests come calling. Her favorite colour may be baby pink, in something shiny, such as a new PVC and white frill maid uniform. Rainy afternoons can be spent rubbing tired tooties after she has been put through her paces with your throbbing latex cock.

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– Slut/Whore

Presenting the insatiable slutty sissy slut, a gobbling greedy whore, who never misses an opportunity to get some slutty slurpy action. Being dressed in the sissie attire, the more slutty the better, places her in the frame of mind she needs to be in to satisfy her slutty ways. She likes nothing better than to spend out messages to all and sundry that she is ready for action. She loves dressing up, surfing the net for filth, consuming ‘medicine’ and test-driving all of your new toys. Hog-roasting appeals, being violated each and every way. Orgasm control training is of great benefit to the slutty sissy as she needs to learn a few lessons in restraint! Most likely the slutty sissie is a heterosexual man out there in the ‘real world’ but in slutty sissie world anything, or nearly anything goes! Strap-on training, dildo worship, down kneeling, handing yourself over to a Dominant woman, this is what you need. And don’t forget, bi-sexual fantasies play a significant role here. Short skimpy pleated skirts with tank tops, lacy panties and thigh-high boots make the slutty sissie as sight to behold.