This list is from a submissive male who is not in a BDSM relationship, but secretly seeks to be.
1. Using words like “pervert”
“It gives me goosebumps when a girl says offensive things to me or calls me out in offensive ways.” Rough, dirty talk hits the spot for submissive men. During your session, keep talking down to him, rudely, and this should get him even more excited.
2. Making him get into a humiliating position, like going on all fours
“It’s even better when she gives out orders aggressively.” It’s a turn-on for some men during foreplay to have their penis fondled while in humiliating positions. If you make him face up like an upside-down frog, that might be as humiliating as well.
3. Licking his anus during a blow job
“It makes me feel so vulnerable when she goes all the way down there that I can almost cum.” Some men get extremely turned on by having their anus licked. Add to this some dirty talk and humiliating positions, and you will rock his world.
4. Going rough in the cowgirl position
“I love cowgirl position. I can really feel like she’s dominating me.” Cowgirl position is popular among submissive men, as the woman will be the one thrusting and controlling the tempo. Along with this, talk to him in a more dominant way to excite him even more.
5. Teasing him right when he’s getting close to reaching climax
“Teasing is just awesome.” You will totally turn the switch on for submissive men if you tease him and delay his climax. Even during foreplay, if you see him starting to feel good, stop licking and change up the sucking and licking force and this will make it spicy for him.
6. Making him talk dirty
“I want to be forced to say things I normally wouldn’t.” Part of dirty talk is being coerced into saying things he would normally feel too shy to say. This is best for submissive men who want to be treated roughly. Next time, try to make him name his body parts by asking him, “What do you call this?”
7. Taking all his clothes off and doing foreplay on him
“This really turns me on. She’s still fully clothed but I’m the only one naked—and vulnerable!” Submissive men enjoy the feeling of being treated like a toy when women one-sidedly get into foreplay without undressing themselves. It will be best to study up on more techniques so you can entertain him longer and not run out of things to do on him.
8. Making him say things like “please”
“When I start talking in a begging tone, I feel like I’m having sex with some royalty.” Some men feel BDSM gets more convincing depending on the way people talk. Before you move on to the next step in sex, just make sure to remind him he has to beg for it first.
9. Taking part in bondage or blindfold play
“I want her to get to a point where she will do this. Being blindfolded during foreplay is so exciting.” Many submissive men desire play in the form of blindfolds and bondage. Even if you don’t have ropes or cords, you can tie his hands using his necktie or use an eye mask to cover his eyes. These things alone can drastically help to super-charge the mood.