Ruined Orgasm

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What is a ruined orgasm?

How do I ruin my orgasm?
Why should I ruin my orgasm?
Why not just deny myself instead?
How is a ruined orgasm different from a milking?
Can I ruin my orgasm multiple times?

What is a ruined orgasm?

It is an orgasm that does not feel fully satisfying, it is still an orgasm and there is some ejaculation but it does not give that stronger orgasmic spasm and often gives a sense of leaving you wanting for more. A ruined orgasm also tends to not reduce your sexual appetite that much and therefore can be very frustrating if that is ALL you get

How do I ruin my orgasm?

When you get to the “point of no return” you ejaculate and you get a normal orgasm. However just before that if you stop and do not hold your cock, then it just slowly leaks out a bit. So just when you feel it is coming… just let go and do nothing. Stop all stroking and just let it leak out. Most can do this without any training, and it is quite easy to do on someone tied up that you play with. Since they do not really have a choice in the matter.

Why should I ruin my orgasm?

You get horny in no time, it does not ruin your sexual mood, it is a good way to show you truly submit to someone, and you can ruin quite a few times a day but it is often hard to cum hard that much! It means more sex and keeping yourself sexually ready for longer, and having your brain crave release even more!

Why not just deny myself instead?

Because if you keep denying yourself for too long, especially if you are not even touching, then your cum production and sexual appetite “Your libido” goes down. We do NOT want this, do we?

How is a ruined orgasm different from a milking

A ruined orgasm comes from stimulation on the head, which is taken away “to early”. However, milking is when you keep pushing the prostate over and over causing an involuntary orgasm. I mean involuntary in the way that there is nothing the person can do about it. If you are not the mood I doubt you can really milk someone or have them cum that successfully. Sissies in their earlier stages are a bit different than girls here. Girls can definitely have forced orgasms, and to an extent, sissies can too but it is by stimulating these erotic points at least. Milking a sissy or man stimulates a point that does not need to give them pleasure. However, done in certain ways they can get some pleasure anally. A good dominant at milking should be able to milk without any pleasure. When milking results in ejaculation there is not real orgasm other than the spasm and it comes with no release from frustration at all, even if the milking felt good it is as if cum comes leaking out and the person is still just as horny. This is really an evil thing to do. One can also milk someone with an electric device, that triggers a forces ejaculation spasm. This, however, is painful, does not feel good in the slightest and is way more hardcore. Of course, that just makes it that much more fun to do. Any sissy that things a chastity device plus forced electric milkings sounds like a hot idea tend to soon be very willing to do anything for you. Even the most rebellious ones. This is truly evil and yet sooo much fun!

Can I ruin my orgasm multiple times?

As long as you can stimulate yourself to the point of orgasm then you can any number of ruined orgasms. However even though a ruined orgasm leave you hanging, it still seems to lower the sissy’s libido a little bit each time and also increases the sensitivity of their little clit. Sissies are different in what they can handle, and how fast they are back up to maximum horniness. I am also quite sure that the training and experience of having ruined orgasm makes it easier to do it more often, and it also seems that there are differences in how it is ruined or who is doing it. A sissy being ruined in the setting of a mistress tends to be able to tolerate many more ruins than they could with their girlfriend at home for example. This can be confusing when teaching the girlfriend or boyfriend of a sissy. The mental part clearly seems to be important for all forms of sex xD

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