So you’re a new dominant and you’ve met a submissive someone who you really like and click with and you’re heading into your very first ever play session. You’re probably scared shitless (it’s okay, I won’t tell). Nerves are normal: taking something that has lived in your head as a fantasy out into the real world with an honest-to-god real submissive partner is scary as hell. Trying to hang onto a ‘dominant headspace’, all confident and sure of yourself, can be really hard when the voice in your head is all fear and doubt.
Through a lot of many women’s everyday lives, they are asked or expected to be soft, submissive, gentle. So what happens when you want to try being in charge in the bedroom? What happens when, in fact, you don’t want to just be charge – but you want to tie up your partner and show them who’s the boss?
Scene 1: Domination With Just Sensual Touch
Not too sure about controlling the entire sex session? That’s OK. Try this one.
So, let’s lay out some ground rules. First, you’ll notice that most of these scenes involve blindfolding your partner. There’s a reason for that. It’s a whole lot easier to feel confident and comfortable doing new things if you’re not worried that your partner can “see” you. Lucky for us, blindfolding someone is also considered to be a form of domination.
Scene 2: In Charge of Oral
This one focuses around the idea of pleasuring your partner and teaching him that his orgasm is yours to control.
At the heart of many submissive fantasies is the longing to be “objectified.” That is, to be used as something that’s specifically designed for the dominant’s pleasure. This simple scenario takes advantage of that fact in an easy-to-execute manner. This will be the most “dominant” of the options.